A frame can embellish a picture to an extent; for the real beauty of a picture comes not from trimmings but from what is in it.
That distinctive depth you are looking for cannot be added after but only while life unfolds. It is something that the naked eye cannot capture without the focused illumination of a stage light.
A bright attitude, like a stage light, can be used to illuminate only that which is worth seeing...that which will cause joy, love, and laughter; that which will portray the depth you have been searching for.
Here are some simple steps on how to illuminate only those things in your life worth illuminating and leave the rest on the dark:
1-Ignore It: If someone says something to you and you ignore the comment, usually they will bring up another topic. They might keep doing this until you engage in a conversation. Observe people talk and you will see that topics are ignored all the time and it is not a big deal. Unconsciously, you do this frequently. Try it. This time, do it consciously. Next time someone makes a negative remark, ignore it. Keep ignoring what they say until they bring up something positive. Then engage.
2-Change The Topic: If ignoring does not work, try changing the topic. A topic is changed in a regular conversation at least ten times. Watch a conversation and count how many times the conversation jumps from one topic to another. Notice how it is not a big deal. Everyone does it. Now, you try it. When someone brings up a negative topic, intentionally change it.
3-Hear Them Out: If you try ignoring a subject or changing the topic and it does not work, then you might want to either walk away or hear them out. To hear them out, just listen to them. Listen to them as though they were going to tell you something that was going to save your life later on today. After they run out of things to say, walk away.
4-Thank Them: A good lead into walking away is saying - Thank you for sharing - Most people would not expect you to thank them for sharing their views. So this will throw them off for a brief moment. Their mind will be confused trying to figure it out why you are thanking them. This is the perfect time to walk away before they regroup.
5-Empathy Secret: None of the steps above will work unless you do them empathetically. How can you empathize with someone when you disagree with every single word they say. Try this. What if you knew that that person only had 24 hours to live? Would you be a little more courteous and patient towards them, even if you did not like that person? Probably. Give it a try.
That distinctive depth you are looking for cannot be added after but only while life unfolds. It is something that the naked eye cannot capture without the focused illumination of a stage light.
A bright attitude, like a stage light, can be used to illuminate only that which is worth seeing...that which will cause joy, love, and laughter; that which will portray the depth you have been searching for.
Here are some simple steps on how to illuminate only those things in your life worth illuminating and leave the rest on the dark:
1-Ignore It: If someone says something to you and you ignore the comment, usually they will bring up another topic. They might keep doing this until you engage in a conversation. Observe people talk and you will see that topics are ignored all the time and it is not a big deal. Unconsciously, you do this frequently. Try it. This time, do it consciously. Next time someone makes a negative remark, ignore it. Keep ignoring what they say until they bring up something positive. Then engage.
2-Change The Topic: If ignoring does not work, try changing the topic. A topic is changed in a regular conversation at least ten times. Watch a conversation and count how many times the conversation jumps from one topic to another. Notice how it is not a big deal. Everyone does it. Now, you try it. When someone brings up a negative topic, intentionally change it.
3-Hear Them Out: If you try ignoring a subject or changing the topic and it does not work, then you might want to either walk away or hear them out. To hear them out, just listen to them. Listen to them as though they were going to tell you something that was going to save your life later on today. After they run out of things to say, walk away.
4-Thank Them: A good lead into walking away is saying - Thank you for sharing - Most people would not expect you to thank them for sharing their views. So this will throw them off for a brief moment. Their mind will be confused trying to figure it out why you are thanking them. This is the perfect time to walk away before they regroup.
5-Empathy Secret: None of the steps above will work unless you do them empathetically. How can you empathize with someone when you disagree with every single word they say. Try this. What if you knew that that person only had 24 hours to live? Would you be a little more courteous and patient towards them, even if you did not like that person? Probably. Give it a try.
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